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Sex!…..got your attention, didn’t I? I’ve made this a special edition because it covers the important issue for men of post partum sex. As any proud parents can tell you, there is a six week waiting period after birth in which nothing is supposed to enter the vagina. That’s right, you heard me…six weeks. Add that on to the dip in activity from the 3rd trimester and you’re left with a long stretch of time. Many men go about this the worst way and beg/coerce their wives into having sex with them only a few weeks after delivery! I can’t imagine how putting your loved one through so much discomfort could be satisfying. The best way to go about this sensitive subject is to take it nice and slow. Take this sexual hiatus as an opportunity to really romance her. Believe it or not, she misses her sex life just as much as you do, and if you play your cards right, then it can be a wonderful experience for both of you.

I should make a point to say that “playing your cards right” is not as simple as putting on Barry White or Marvin Gaye and then slowly dancing towards her, hoping the magic will happen. To be a real Helpful Hubby in this case, you’ve got to start by simply backing off and giving her time to heal. Not many people tell you this beforehand, but the trauma of birth can cause vaginal bleeding for weeks afterwards. Even worse is the trauma suffered from having a C-section. Besides, all of the countless diapers and sleepless nights will probably kill your love mood as well. Here are the basic tips to get to that magical night.

•Take care of her-It sounds simple, but I have to admit that I didn’t do a good job at this one, but if I had, things would have been much better. Do everything you can to make sure that she rests as much as possible, so she’ll heal quicker. Keep on cooking and cleaning, and now you need to make an effort to really help out with the baby.

•Help with the baby- If you’re a first time dad, changing diapers may be daunting, but you’ll get the hang of it pretty quickly, and that can help her a lot.

•Make time for a romantic dinner – If you have a family member nearby, this step in much easier. If not, try finding a close, trusted friend to watch little one for just a few hours so the two of you can just have some time together. If she’s breastfeeding, it’s suggested that she doesn’t pump into a bottle to feed baby for six weeks, so the night out needs to be somewhere close.

•Keep up the massaging- Remember, it doesn’t have to just be therapeutic.

•Rediscover the magic of kissing- When was the last time you had a good make out session with your wife? Usually, one thing leads to another, right? Well, now you can pretend like you’re dating again!

•Be romantic – Whether it’s cards, chocolates, or love sonnets, do romantic things for her to remind her how special she is to you.

All of these things will help build up anticipation for both of you and can even make your bond stronger as you enter parenthood together. Even for veteran parents, these tips can smooth the transition back into the love life.

Grant Carroll proud father and co-owner of http://www.littlepamperedbabies.com with Baby Clothes and Baby Shower Gift Ideas
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