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Whether it’s the other kids making fun of you at school, you just received a really harsh performance evaluation from your boss, you got turned down by the girl you asked out, or you didn’t get the job you interviewed for, rejection and criticism hurts. I won’t tell you not to take it personally, because it is personal. You are the one who was criticized. You are the one who was rejected. No matter how much self-confidence you have a part of you cringes every time someone rejects you or criticizes you. You are the one who has to get rid of that awful feeling in the pit of your stomach. What do you do to make yourself feel better?

You could be angry or revengeful, but that won’t actually make you feel wanted and admired. Quite often it can bite you in the rear end too. You may have been a really close #2 for that promotion at work. The girl who turned you down for the date might have been in the middle of breaking up with someone and was thinking that you would be a good companion later on down the road. Your boss may actually like you a lot and it may be his boss who told him that he was being too nice during the performance evaluations and that he needed to be tougher. You don’t always know for sure why you are being criticized or why you were rejected. If your gut response is to do something vengeful, there’s a good chance that you’re closing the door on any future acceptance by those same people. There’s no long-term benefit in alienating others who might have cared about you or admired your work at a later time.

You could just assume that the other person is stupid or wrong and completely ignore them and their opinions of you. The problem with this approach is that you may have been able to find nuggets of truth in their criticisms that you could have used for personal growth. Not all criticism is meant to be destructive and mean. Constructive criticism can be hard to take but extremely useful. My daughter had heard that a dear friend of hers was being made fun of at school because he had bad breath and the kids thought he was homosexual because of some clothing choices. She wrestled with the decision for a long time before she finally decided to come forward and tell him what was being said behind his back. He was mortified but he was also able to make some changes in his personal hygiene and his wardrobe choices. Ultimately he chose to take the course of self-improvement and succeeded in drastically changing his public image for the better. The same can be true if the criticisms are coming from a coworker, a best friend, a boss, a family member. The key here is to consider the person who is offering the criticism. How are they saying it? What is their real heartfelt intentions behind delivering a criticism. If you trust them and believe that they genuinely mean well, then consider what they are saying and whether or not they may have a valid point. A bit of constructive criticism can be horrible to swallow but ultimately the best thing that can happen to you.

You could obsess over what they’ve said. I have had readers write in to tell me that my articles stink. One in particular hated an article I wrote about picking and choosing a couple of good causes to donate your time to rather then trying to do it all. She obviously didn’t read the article because she thought that I was saying that I personally could single handedly save the world, healing it of all it’s problems. The whole point of the article was to find balance between our desire to do it all and the realities of what our talents, assets, and overall lifestyles would really allow us to fix. My gut response was to be very hurt and angry at the reader’s harsh words and her ugly assessment of me as a person and as a writer. The truth is, she obviously didn’t read the article. If she had she would see that I absolutely agreed with her that I can not fix all of the problems of the world all by myself. To obsess over her criticism of my article would have ruined my entire day and would have kept me from being able to get anything done. Her letter is a perfect example of the idea that sometimes you have to completely ignore the person who is rejecting you. Some times people have problems or issues of their own and what they are doing is venting at you and criticizing you without even considering what they are saying or who you really are. You have to ask yourself, “Is this particular person’s opinion of me accurate? Does their opinion of me really even matter?” Sometimes the answer is no. “No they don’t know what they are talking about and no I really don’t care what they think of me.” If this is one of those times, then there is really no reason for you to obsess over what they’ve just said to you.

For your own sake, I would recommend taking your emotional heart out of the situation. Do not allow your heart to make the evaluations as to whether or not the rejections or criticisms in your life are valid or not. From a logical position you can ask the person who turned you down why they made that choice. Was the other person more qualified for the job? Did the kids at school catch you picking your nose in public? Were they having a bad day? How can you improve yourself so as to safeguard yourself from future criticisms and rejections? Stand up straight, walk tall, and don’t let them see you sweat!

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge

Some people, after they reach their mid and upper adult years
seem to go through their lives just existing. Oh! They work at
their jobs as best as they can. Some may even pursue higher
positions in their jobs but they still don’t seem to stay satisfied with whatever position they have. They are usually the ones just waiting until it comes time for their retirement.

For those of you in that ho-hum category let me say this. Quit
pretending – you have to live what’s in you to succeed. If you
think you are doing the best job you can. Think again. Whether
you realize it or not you have within you more talents than you
would ever believe.

Why not discover your newfound talents and use them to
enhance your life and those close to you for everyone’s benefit. In today’s world you can never be sure of the security of your career or your health. All of us know that today we are not sure if we’ll be victims of downsizing or experience a major health problem.

In my case when I retired I was not only looking for a second
income but also a way I could become beneficial to others. I
never realized I had some writing talents until someone who
thought I had that ability encouraged me. He even believes
everyone has the ability to be an author and he helps them
develop that talent.

I never really enjoyed the subject of English when I was in
school. And I surely didn’t enjoy writing compositions either.
But I did enjoy writing my Ebook “Absolutely Senior.” I
think the reason I enjoyed writing it was because I wanted to
share my stories how I changed careers, how I overcame
difficulties and how I became successful as a sales rep and
sales trainer.

Now the purpose of my ebook was not to brag about my
successes. No, it was written for the purpose of giving
other people encouragement to strive for a more purposeful
life. It reveals how I was able to become a more vibrant
and successful person and how everyone else can do the
same.

Why not give some serious thought about your own life
right now. Could you discover some talents in your life that
have become dormant over the years? Do you believe if you
could restore some of them and make them active again you
could create and stimulate more excitement in your own life
and the lives of others too? I believe you could. Why not try
it?

Not sure how to go about it? Well here’s some ideas I used
to help myself and my sales staff to accomplish more
successes in our lives. These ideas helped me and them to
discover hidden talents that we hadn’t even thought about
for a long long time.

Here’s a step-by-step method that I used and taught to
accomplish this.

(1) Find a time and a quiet place where you can relax and

think (my lounge chair was always the ideal spot for

me) The important thing to remember is to get as

relaxed as you can and in as quiet a place as you can

find. Also keep a note pad, pen and/or pencil nearby.

(2) Close your eyes and start reminiscing about the past.

Hopefully you will think about pleasant things. If

unpleasant things appear don’t dwell on them for too

long. (However some of them might be beneficial if

they taught you’re a valuable lesson)

(3) Now start zeroing in on the thoughts and moments in

your life that could be beneficial in developing a “New

You” (WOW! A “New You”) How would you like that?

Let me tell you that you won’t know how great that feels

until it happens to you.

(4) OK When you start getting some ideas that you feel are

beneficial or could inspire your life more write them

down on your note pad. Don’t be too critical at this

time about the ideas that come to you, just write down

whatever ideas come to you first. Spent as much time

doing this step for as long as it keeps you interested.

(5) This is sorting out time now. So look at all the ideas

you’ve written down. Start checking off the ones that

seem to get you excited or inspired the most. (I suggest

you narrow it down to no more than six ideas).

(6) Alright now do this: Look at each of those six ideas

(or whatever number you came up with) and dwell on each

one to get the most vivid picture you can imagine. Also

think of ways to apply them. Now pick only one idea

you want and start working on it immediately while it’s

still fresh in your mind. Put every effort into it to

make it a reality. Then don’t ever let anyone or anything

destroy your dream to succeed.

By applying this simple 6-step formula you’ll be able to see if
you really are interested in creating a “New You.” Why not
start now and quit pretending that you are doing your best job
of living a fulfilling lifestyle. You need to remember, “You
have to live what’s in you to succeed.” And you want to know
something? Whatever is in you may want to desperately get
out in the open and start working!

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Sonny Julius is the author of “Sunny Days Are Here To Stay” It’s 8-easy steps for creating your very own “Sunny Day” Grab your Free copy now and learn how to enhance your lifestyle Today!
http://SunnyDays.Sonnyj.com
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Sonny Julius is a retired sales supervisor. His interest
in the Internet and his past experience as a sales
trainer eventually led him to write an ebook geared
to senior citizens. The ebook Absolutely Senior “How
To Have The Best Time Of Your Life For The Rest
Of Your Life” is a guide for living the senior lifestyle.

In addition he publishes a weekly newsletter, offers a
Free no – obligation personal phone coaching session
and is an expert author of several articles. For more
information go to: http://thesunnysenior.com/

Most of us get up each day and go through the same routine whatever we do in life – most of us are reasonably happy and content and just get on with living.

There is of course nothing wrong with that in the slightest but what would you say if you were granted the gift of REAL happiness which lead you down a path of such peace and contentment that no other experience you’ve had to date could compare.

You know what it’s like when you are looking forward to Christmas, the anticipation and the excitement just builds and builds. The same is true when the countdown to your holiday begins and then the joy of the holiday itself.

Well how would you like those feelings of pure joy, anticipation and excitement to be with you on a daily basis and then to find that the fulfilment part is even better – a feeling that you could just “burst for joy” and an inner peace and contentment that you’ve only ever seen at the movies?

Well I’ve found just that and the adrenalin seems to be pumping all the time and the buzz and excitement I get from life still amazes me.

I had the most amazing experience just under 3 years ago and my life changed dramatically from that day on and the incredible thing is that it just gets better and better – the miraculous gift that I’ve been given is something that I feel driven to expose the rest of mankind too, regardless of race colour or creed.

It was for that reason my book formed (I had been writing a few details of my experiences and at the time I had no intention of actually writing a book) and I just want to share this experience because if we could all feel like I do now the world would be such a different place to live in not just for us but for our children and their children and so on – a happy life is there for us all if we just accept the wondrous gift that is on offer – a gift that actually costs us nothing at all.

A recent testimonial, exerts of which are included below, show just why I want this book to reach and touch people who are looking for what I’ve found.

I LAVISHED your book. My life was in shambles; my wife had divorced me and tonight I was in such a state of despair that I had rung my Mother to tell her that suicide was my only option – after reading your book I have a peace about me that I have not had since I was 19 and I’m 56 now. Thank you thank you for allowing God to speak through you to me – I now feel a complete relief from all the pain and misery I have known for the past 37 years and I thank you for saving my life – actually GOD SAVED MY LIFE but you threw me the life preserver – may God continue to bless you, your family and your ministry.

Roy Thompson, Atlanta, Georgia – royjrthompson@bellsouth.net

The author had had a dreadful drink problem for over 30 years but was miraculously freed from this overnight which resulted in him becoming a Christian. 3 years on his life couldn’t be better and he wrote his book in the hope this may help others. Details of his book and contact details can be found at www.aspecialjourney.com

Copyright 2005 Brian Beshore

I’m starting to think that these self improvement E-books are an integral part of being in business. I know a lot of newbies limit their marketing efforts because certain things intimidate them. They may have no experience of a thing, but just the sound of it intimidates them.

I had one fellow write to me, after reading one of my newsletters, and he said that autoresponders just terrified him. Maybe someday he would get up the nerve to try using one, he said.

Well, it’s kind of tough running a business without an autoresponder and, the reality is, they’re quite simple to use. In a similar way, many newbies are intimidated by seemingly complex sounding things like keywords, and Search Engine Optimization or reciprocal linking.

They will limit themselves to throwing a MLM splash page into a surf exchange and expect that will get them somewhere. Later, they will just give up, when they really haven’t done anything at all.

Therefore, the mind-set of the business person seems to become quite important. Is the person confident enough to try new things or to, at least, learn about them? Will their confidence come across to their associates and sign-ups?

I personally always equated confidence with preparation. The better prepared and informed I was, the more confident I could feel. It seemed a foolish thing to just have confidence without the goods to back it up.

I realized that this was a double edged sword. The law of vibrations comes into effect. If you feel confident, you attract the right teachers and you know what to do with the information you are getting. You then act on this information, rather than remaining closed to it.

One time a student said to me that I seemed so confident and she wished she could have the same sort of confidence. I told her that no one can give it to you. You have to give this feeling to yourself. There is no one person or experience that can give it to you.

How can you do this? By telling yourself that you are confident and practicing having the feeling that you are confident. Our feelings are much more powerful than words and if you can become like an actor, for short periods of time during your day, and practice having the feeling of confidence and success, you can raise your vibration and begin to attract good things to you.

Is this a form of self hypnosis? Yes. Why shouldn’t we use this tool for our own betterment when we are being bombarded by it continuously everyday by our society? Only the suggestions we get from others and television is not positive or constructive. They are manipulative and negative, as we all know.

In fact, I’ve heard it said that the negative, in our world, is three times stronger than the positive! I use these techniques on a regular basis. I listen to affirmations that I have recorded and I use my imagination to create feelings of having the positive things or situations I seek.

Do you want to make a real difference in the world? Is
there something you’d like to change – some way to find your own
purpose for being on this earth?

You know, you don’t have to do
take-on-the-whole-world-by-yourself projects. The easiest and
most effective way to change the world is for each of us to do
one small kindness at a time. One kindness has a ripple effect,
with far-reaching consequences you may never know about.

Below you will find five ways you can make a difference from the
e-book, “101 Ways to Change the World”. Many things can be done
that don’t cost a lot – just a small investment of your time.

1. Give anonymous surprise gifts to co-workers or friends – with
a note telling them they matter. It doesn’t have to be much to
let them know someone cares, how about:

- a candy bar

- one cookie

- a flower

- something you have lying around your house

Every time, it
will be the fun of knowing someone cares that will make their
life better – just by giving a little time and thought to
someone else.

2. Give away a professional service – offer it FREE once a
week, twice a month or once a month to someone who needs it.

- Free dental cleanings

- Free house cleaning

- Free meal at your restaurant

- Free accounting service

3. Form your own “Good Deed Patrol” for a fun way to change
your world.

- Watch for people doing something to make a difference in the
community. Listen to conversations to discover these people.

- Talk with your radio station or local newspaper and ask if
they will include a small section in the paper or a small spot
on radio programs to say THANK YOU to these people – it doesn’t
have to be much.

- Think how excited someone would be to open the paper and see a
THANK YOU NOTICE to them for something they did.

- Since no one will know who the Good Deed Patrol is, this might
encourage people to do their best at all times!

4. Respond with kindness every time someone is rude or mean to
you. One lady was treated very rudely by an attendant at her gas
station. She responded by taking him a plate of cookies and
telling him to have a nice day. Now he goes out of his way to be
nice to her. Each of us can choose to respond this way!

5. If you like to give parties, you can make an even bigger
difference. – Throw a big party and invite as many people as you
can fit. – Their “ticket” to the event will be a bag of
groceries for a local food pantry. – Make sure to send along a
list of what the Food Pantry needs most.

There you have it – just a few simple ideas to get you started.
If these didn’t spark your imagination, go to
http://www.101WaysSeries.com to download a copy of the e-book,
“101 Ways to Change the World”. Let’s start a kindness
revolution!

What do you do when a former associate you haven’t seen in a while stops by your home and confides in you that they have no money to celebrate the holiday?

I listened to her every word with full concern in my heart. My first thought was “I’ll help her out with some cash.”

The thought twisted within me. I knew that giving her a little financial relief was no true answer to her situation.

I had to analyze the bigger picture. She had informed me that there had been a lay-off, at the worst time. It had been over two weeks with no other employer committing to hire her.

So, I made the decision, that it was not in her best interest to give her cash. The old adage, “Give a man(sic) a fish…” stood out in my mind.

I have in the past known the harshness of finding my financial situation extremely uncomfortable. I sat across from her and allowed the images to roam freely in my mind of how I felt when I had experienced a similar situation. How had I survived when my options seemed limited?

I had made it through the lean times. I hadn’t received any cash loans or financial assistance from anyone.

I was forced to put on new spectacles to look beyond my temporary situation. I discovered real-life money windows that I had never allowed myself to see before, all around me.

I learned how to move from what could have ruined me spiritually…totally. I saw a real-life way legally to get money and I did it in less than 24 hours. I, then, learned more during that period by asking every friend, sibling and associate I knew at that time, how they made money when they desperately needed it within their normal environment without it being dependent on having a job.

I took the knowledge shared with me and used it to inject quickly more and more streams of money into my life within days. I didn’t need to use all the real-life methods shared with me, but I felt comfortable knowing all of them.

I shared everything that I had learned in my lean times with this former associate. I didn’t give her cash for a quick fix. I shared all my knowledge that had seen me through my lean times.

I’m happy to share with you that she called me three days later to say, “Thank you.” She filled me in on what she had done and told me that by using only one of the real-life methods, she had in her pocket at that moment $173.00 in cash.

She was elated as we talked on the phone. She announced that she would definitely have at least five-hundred dollars for holiday shopping. She thanked me repeatedly.

It was right before we ended our conversation that she asked me, “Why do you keep that information to yourself?… People like I was could use stuff that works in life.”

I didn’t answer her question. I said, “goodbye” and just felt happy that everything had worked out for her.

It wasn’t until days later, especially, after hearing about a major corporation closing plants and in fact putting hundreds of thousands of people out of work. That information upset me. I decided that day to share what I had gained from real world experiences of how to make money when it was badly needed.

I ‘m glad that I was able to help my former associate. She doesn’t know it, but her last question to me helped me to realize what was the point in having knowledge, that just because I no longer had to fall back on it, didn’t mean others couldn’t benefit from it.

So, in my belief that we are all a piece of the puzzle, it’s only fair and caring to be willing to share knowledge that relieves anyone else’s despair.

If anyone is committed to knowing real-life methods that they can use in the real world to make money without jumping through any hoops, this is information that works. So, if it’s a Holiday Cash Boost one needs, it can be found within this information but realize the information is valuable for your lifetime. For more information visit: http://www.for-da-bliss.com

How to never get lonely

Copyright © 2005

… “I never get lonely”, said the woman I met last year, while I was boarding on a bus, going to Dallas Texas. This woman was full of joy; I couldn’t imagine in this world of trouble, how could she be like that.

I had to ask her because I was curious, why she was so vibrant. Can you imagine? Some body who never get lonely!

After twisting her arm and leg she finally told me her secrets. Here they are:

1. Never tell yourself that you are lonely

When I wake up in the morning I remind myself that, this is the good day, it is going to provide me with good things, I should never feel alone. At any time I feel lonely I remove that negative thought.

A side note:

All experience we encountered in life start as a thought if we keep accumulating these thought process they will transform into reality.

2. Do what you like

I hear people say, Oh I don’t like this job, and I hate it! Hating your job is an added energy EATER. After getting off work most people will feel exhausted for working many hours. To hate something consume a lot of energy. When this process of consuming energy takes about eight hours every day, how much extra energy are you losing?

When you go back home you feel exhausted with very little energy left, and guess what! You don’t feel like doing anything. Your mind start telling you,” You can’t do anything, you are tired, you are lonely” On the other hand if you do what you like your mind will re-create more energy, you will feel more complete, you will start to see life as something good, and guess what, your mind will start to produce good feelings. The energy keeps building up, you will never feel lonely. No wonder couples in love have more energy, they never feel lonely.

3. Old good memories

Side note:

Anytime you see, hear, taste, feel or smell something, your mind processes that information. When I say process I mean receiving a command and interpreting it. (Like when you smell a perfume your mind is commanded to smell and interpreter what kind of smell is)

Even what you are reading right now is processed by your mind. If what you read is good your mind processed good feelings and vise versa. No wonder most people stop reading articles they don’t like. If you have reached this far you must have liked it.

Here is what the lady told me about using powerful old good memories.

She said,”See those old photos, those which you were five years old, see those little feet and little hands of yours when you were little. Oh! what about calling your old friend. How about the movie you saw when you were in high school. You will be surprise how those old memories bring your evening full of energy. By remembering some of your good memories and processing in your mind, you will feel happier and never feel lonely.”

4 Take a long bath

“Water in any container presses equally in all direction” that’s just basic physics. It means when you lay on a tab full of water it presses your body equally in all direction from head to toe. It is as if a great lover is touching you all over at once with that great sensation.

The buoyancy of water makes you feel like you are floating in the air. All these pleasant experience happens at once. Your body relaxes so well.

Now there is one more important thing happening in your mind. This is very important!

When you do something good to your self such as taking a long bath. Deep down in your mind you feel valuable, read that again if you don’t mind. It’s like a house, which appreciates in value, it always looks better, you will feel good and you will never feel lonely.

These were her suggestions but I can’t just leave you like that without sharing with you an experience happened three weeks ago.

5 Do your hair

Three weeks ago I attended a wedding ceremony. Every body was dressed so well (You know what I mean, When people attend marriage ceremony…I bet you have attended one). The way one lady who was smiling really caught my eye, I approached her and we talked for a while, her hair was so smooth,I needed to sigh a little bit.

I wouldn’t tell you what happen next.

Anyway

Let me asked you how long does it take you to take a shower…. and.how long does it take you to do your hair. Are you starting to see the important of hair? Why do you think most people spend more time to do their hair.

Like I said earlier our mind always process information, when you see something good, your mind stimulate good feelings. When you see your face looking good, your mind produces good feelings

Doing your hair will kill two birds with one stone: First, you will keep yourself busy and second your mind will stimulate good feeling, hence you never feel lonely.

Sincerely,

Timeo Busyanya,

Helping individuals, improve their self image

“lon elyou.com“ .

Chamonix Haute Savoie France is a one of a kind location with the awe inspiring Mont Blanc and jagged glaciers. Everyone love to go hiking or sometimes eating out. I invariably travel from Rogers City and stay at a Chamonix catered chalet during my holiday.

My family and I used to went to Langham Hotel Boston however it sometimes didn’t meet the standards of its marketing: The Langham Hotel Boston is situated overlooking the Post Office Square Park in downtown Boston, approximately three miles from Logan International Airport and four miles from Harvard Square. Local attractions include the New England Aquarium, Faneuil Hall, Bunker Hill Monument, and Fenway Park.Hotel amenities include 24-hour room service, concierge, complimentary overnight shoeshine, overnight laundry/valet, and business center. Guests may also enjoy the full-service fitness center with indoor pool, sauna, whirlpool, massage services, and solarium. Onsite drinks and dining are available at the award winning restaurant Cafe Fleuri and the Julien Bar & Lounge. The property also features Sunday Jazz Brunch Buffet and the award-winning seasonal Chocolate Bar Buffet on Saturday afternoons.Guest rooms feature direct-dial telephones, high-speed Internet access, TVs, hairdryers, in-room safes, irons, ironing boards, coffeemakers, marble bathrooms, make-up mirrors, and mini-refrigerators.

On the other hand in Chamonix town the self catered chalet is nearly always good. In addition eating out in my families’ preferred restaurant, Cedar Grove Deli & Sub Shop, munching scarecrow and spider cupcakes is a real treat. Chamonix is a large enough town to make sure that there is lots of things for the visitor to do. With a spa and a shopping arcade of designer boutiques, Chamonix offers a combination of climbing, alpine charm and sightseeing which barely any ski resorts can match.

The Castle of Fezzana, is a Medicean castle located on the beautiful hills surrounding Florence, where you can enjoy a 360° wonderful Castles and Towers. The Castle of Fezzana is an 13th century Castle very conserved and restored.

Distances:
Florence 20 minutes
Siena,San Gimignano, Volterra, Pisa, Livorno, Viareggio, seaside ,Lucca, Pistoia 30/60 minutes.

The apartments are located in the nice manor house and in the nearby farmhouses, both renovated in Tuscan rural style. Each apartment has its own fully equipped outdoor area. A barbecue is available in the farm yard with a long community table. Independent central heating for all apartments. Car-park
Barbecue in every house.

The swimming pool (10×20) with Jacuzzi and solarium is positioned in a wonderful corner of the Castle with a unique view and its open from May to September from 8 a.m. until 8p.m.
In the large rooms and parks of Fezzana can be organized also partys and every kind of events.
Fezzana has the own kitchen with Tuscan menù, but their can work also external catering.
They organized also for groups painting, music and cooking courses with teachers of the main academies of Florence. It is also possible a complete package of study, food supply and accommodation with visits to the main museums of Florence and the main cities of art inTuscany.
Possibility to acquire typical products made at the Fattoria di Fezzana..

The rates included:water, electricity, gas, swimming-pool and all the features outside the estate.
Caution :Euro 200
heating Euro 12/day
linen bed/bath Euro 12 / person
Air conditioning on request Euro 20/day
TV on request Euro 50/week
Final cleaning Euro 50/80. daily cleaning Euro 16/hour
Common laundry available
Common TV-SAT room FREE
internet connection available in common room

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Spending time in Thailand which is 97% Bhudhist and getting used to walking at a slower pace due to the heat, I am reflecting on the ideas of goal setting.

When you are feeling pressured, stop that feeling of wanting to rip yours or someone else’s hair out with these 5 tips for peaceful goal setting and life success.

These tips help with laid back peaceful yet efficient and mature goal setting.

1. Become mindful of your emotional experiences of frustration and overwhelm and pause to recognize, acknowledge, and accept that at present it is a part of you, and that it is ok.

It is not wimpish to acknowledge our pains. It is in fact a much more mature way to live. If something is troubling you. It can be emotionally released by pausing and acknowledging that it exists at this time. Breathe into it, and when you feel ready, carry on with your day.

Might you be able to apply this to any hurdles to goal setting and life success right now, or will you do it when something comes up later?

2. See if you can mentally identify the top one or two major things that are causing you 80% of the current negative feelings that may be hindering your goal setting and life success.

If you can’t think of them, then spend some time alone writing down whatever ‘problems’ you can think of until you hit on the aha’s of greater concern.

Do you know what are the biggest emotional dramas revolving around your life at present?

3. Write down all of the little and medium and large responsibilities, tasks, projects, time-stealers, etc that you possibly can think of that are relevant to your goal setting and life success for your life in the short term.

By capturing it all on paper you might be surprised at just how much more satisfied and under control you feel. Even if there is an absolute ton of items to note down, it is much less taxing on the brain to be able to see it clearly rather than constantly be wondering if you have missed or forgotten anything.

How complete is your life of ‘things to do’. Does it scrape you through the day with minimal abrasions, or is it a rock solid comprehensive status of your affairs?

4. Reward yourself in some way for your efforts and small success’s in goal setting and life success.

I used to have a problem with doing this as I felt it was an indulgence given that there really REALLY was so so SO much to be getting on with.

However I have learned that the mind actually needs to be ‘tricked’ into efficient performance and stamina, and giving yourself rewards actually programs your deeper mind to stay on top of things more.

You might dedicate 30 minutes to a relaxing bath. Or a few pages of that novel that has been collecting dust on your bed side table until now. Self-rewards can sometimes seem childish, but it is the deeper part of our mind that functions in that way, so accept and utilize it for your benefit.

5. Prioritize goal setting and life success in a way that accepts the facts of finite time.

That is, you have 24 hours in a day. Better it is to do a good job on one major project dedicating 2 hours to it, than to attempt work on multiple projects which dilutes your effectiveness for any one. Stay mindful that good learning, good writing, good work of any kind, requires a certain amount of time. Where do you need to invest a good quality block of time on one of your projects over the next day or two?